 Should I stay or go -
flowerchild
I would like someone's opinion about my relationship.
We don't agree on anything any more. There is no
communication. Everytime I suggest something He puts me
down, I seem to want his approval and positive answers
but nothing makes him happy. I am miserable. yet I can't
see myself starting over. Please help.
 From: hugger
Starting over means there was something that you had
and lost... Doesn't sound like you had much of a
relationship to begin with.. You and he deserve
better..all people do...so part as friends and wish each
other well...unless you are married..then you have
already made a commitment to each other to make it
work...if he is not willing to get help with this, then
you must get your own help..you will not be good for
anyone, even yourself, without a sense of what a real
loving relationship consists of...take a look at the
online book offered here..it is excellent.. you can start
your learning/therapy here.
From: flowerchild
Thank you, for responding. What you said really made
me think. I went t to the bookstore and got
"Codependent no more". I am starting to think
that his moods really affect me and make me miserable. My
happiness has depended on his moods and approval. I am
married and committed but sometimes it is truly
impossible to see a bright future. I have lost sight of
my dreams and become bitter and angry at him. I will try
to love myself and take one day at a time. God bless.
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