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 How do I cope with it all? -
Caring
How do I begin? A lot has happened to myself and my
husband in the last year. My husband was in a serious
wreck in July of last year. In October, my sister and her
husband disappeared. My brother-in-law was found dead two
weeks after they disappeared and my sister has not been
found. My husband and I are having trouble dealing with
all of this. He is angry at the person who caused the
wreck and I am angry and confused about what happened to
him and what happened to my sister and her husband. My
husband and I seem to be taking out our frustrations on
each other. All we seem to do is fight. How do we
communicate better without fighting? I love him dearly
and I want our relationship to work out, but I cannot
deal with the anger and fighting anymore. I would
appreciate any comments.
 From: Bernd
Get help. Get as much help as you can. You can't lift
a 2-ton weight by yourself, and you can't handle this
heavy load by yourself. Do anything you can to help you
find genuine ways of coping that will lead you out of the
swamp - online resources, books, counselling, support
groups, etc. on dealing with death, marriage problems,
and your own grieving process. Everything that has
happened has been a helluva shock to both your systems.
You can't expect yourself to find your way easily thru
this anymore than you could walk steadily if you had 2
broken legs. Reach out. As soon as you can. Reach out.
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