 I cant trust my husband - CC
My husband is a sex addict. He has been honest with me
with about his addiction. I find it so hard to trust him
and I work myself into a panic trying to find out what he
has done sexually. I know he rents movies, porno mags,
goes to strip joints.. he says he will never have an
affair. I cant believe him because I've seen women's
phone numbers in his wallet. When I ask him about the
numbers he gets in a rage that I wont respect his
privacy. But as I see it he's not respecting me by
getting any professional help. I cant stand this!! Help!
 From: Susan
I personally am going through this. I have found a
great deal of support on this board. There are others of
us here too !! I belong to an (moderated) e-mail group
specifically for the spouse/family of SA's. I also attend
the weekly 12 Step group for S-Anon, which is very
similar to Al-Anon.
Please e-mail me and we can talk about it!!! If you
would like some additional support I can give you the
address to apply for the e-mail group and some other
addresses and info. It's OK !!! I know exactly what you
are going through. DO NOT DOUBT YOURSELF and do not
minimize your feelings not allow the SA to do so. There
are wonderfully supportive groups and people FOR YOU,
your husband will need to make his own decisions. YOU can
only change you, and become healthy with or without him.
Never forget that !!! I will be happy and blessed to help
you with some info and some loving, understanding
support.
From: Cindi
{{{{{{{{CC}}}}}}}} I wanted to start out with a big
hug because I know where you are and how you are feeling.
I am going through the same thing. I cannot make the SA
get help, but I can get help for myself. I can join group
with other who live with the same problem. I can also get
counselling. Or both. I felt so crazy, nervous and really
alone all the time, until I found people I could share
with. People who don't judge me, but give me their
experience, strength and hope. If you would like to talk
please email me.
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