Husband using pornography - hopeful

I found this site just today. I have been searching on the internet for days trying to find info and help on this subject. This find was a God send. Not only did I feel validated for the first time, but I printed out info that my husband read. He found my book mark to this site and brought it up and started reading on his own. After he read the first article I told him about the one I had printed and he was anxious to read it. After, we sat down and discussed it. He said it gave him alot of insight into my feelings and some for himself too. It was a special time in our relationship. After all the fighting and trying to explain to him how I felt about his behavior I think some things finally sunk in.He said it was powerful to see other people going through the same issues and that we are not alone.I can't thank you enough for the hope to a new beginning in our lives.Thank you for all the honesty you've shared. I believe honesty is a good start toward change!

From: Rebecca

To "Hopeful" -- please share your resources with me! I too have just found this site in my desperate search for help with a similar problem. But I can't find any articles to print -- just other sad tales from women like you and me posted to this board. I have just discovered my husband of 18 yrs -- a successful lawyer, upstanding gentleman, generally kind if detached husband -- has had a PO Box for his porno habit since before we were married! He has a storage facility full of the stuff -- thousands of pictures, tapes, computer disks, etc. Even worse, more than half of the stuff is really violent, sadistic -- I cannot believe that this man can look at this stuff without retching! Anyway, when I found the stash I went out and rented him an apt, took the keys and his suitcase to his office and threw him out. I am swinging wildly between wanting to head straight to the divorce lawyer and missing him so much that I think I'm going to die. My kids are miserable and I feel so guilty for doing this to them -- they have no idea why their lives have fallen apart because their Mom and Dad were fine just last week! Thanks for letting me dump all this and please send help.

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