Re: Avoiding Reality?

Re: Avoiding Reality? ----- From: Bernd - Date: 04 Nov 1997

How about reminding yourself that your girlfriend might be doing exactly what you need most right now?:)

If there's any truth to that, then my best guess is that you can use this period to learn how to give her more genuine freedom to move on, or come back, whichever SHE feels best, with less and less hidden pressuree from you. Giving such freedom is very loving - to yourself, and to her. Also, if you've looked at females mainly from a "potential partner" viewpooint, maybe this is an ideal time to begin learning how to build good friendships with females, where enjoying each other's company and learning about others is the main goal? My guess is that women have a similar difficulty with men - i.e., that there are few men that they can feel comfortable with as a friend, without worrying about it developing into an emotional relationship attachment. To be able tto go to the movies or a football game with a girl as a "friend", as easily as you could go with a best guy buddy to a football game or the movies, doubles your source of potential friends, plus gives you a better understanding of women without so much at stake emotionally clouding your judgement.

Maybe it WOULD be nice for a while to NOT be in an intimate relationship with someone, to give you time to explore your relationship with yourself more, and the world of friendship. Btw, I think anyone who has a bunch of genuine friends is VERY attractive to most people.:)