Re: To Mel, Kelle, Luise

Re: To Mel, Kelle, Luise ----- From: kim (wolfie) - Date: 05 Nov 1997

Hi Kelle,

I am not disagreeing with anything you said. I truly am not. I agree that our happiness is our own responsibility - I agree!!! Nobody can make us happy - nobody can - exept ourselves.

I agree with you Kelle.

It is just that I go further than that. I feel we need to do the highest choice for ourselves and that the highest choice for ourselves is always the highest choice for others - including our children. I don't believe that children are victims. I believe we choose our parents and we choose a LOT prior to even coming here to this earthplane so the greatest thing you can do for yourself and for all else, is be true to yourself. The highest choice for you, is the highest choice for all.

If it is in staying in your marriage, great!!!! I feel many people leave when they should stay and many people stay when they should leave. You are right. We EACH have to make our own choices - and it sounds as if you are doing what you need to do.

All I was trying to point out in your post was that you were comparing yourself to Mzet and Bernd. I feel it hurts us when we compare ourselves to anyone. What was right for them may not be right for you. This is all I was saying.

Who says that the Divorce would be painful to your children. Especially if you were MUCH MUCH happier. How empowered they would be to see and feel that happiness is possible in a partnership. You may find someone who is more appropriate for you. Yes, you are right - our happiness is our responsibility - NOBODY can make us happy but US - BUT sometimes Two people have stopped growing together and it is time to move on. Your children have their own higher selves and they would be allright.

I am sorry. I have no right butting into your life. I don't. And you are obviously doing what you need to do! Maybe this post should be directed at Bernd instead of you. I admire Bernd with his strength and his courage! I do! Many things that Bernd says, I agree with!!!! We see eye to eye on many levels. All I am saying to ALL is: what was "right" for Bernd, may not be "right" for you.

If anyone is interested in how a "Conscious Relationship" works, (I have read many books on relationships and I feel this is the best one) try reading "Kenny & Julia Loggins - The Unimaginable Life." by Kenny and Julia Loggins. It is awesome. They were both married to separate people (and Kenny had children from that marriage) and realized that they had stopped growing in their relationship's. It was time for THEM to move on. Because they moved on from their marriages, Kenny and Julia found each other and their story is a remarkable one! It is about two people who take 100% responsibility for their emotional feelings. The growth and work they have done is beautiful. Their happiness is AWESOME! Just like Bernd and Lynda have found their own happiness by taking responsibliity for their lives, so have Kenny and Julia Loggins. But Kenny and Julia got divorced from past marriages before finding each other. We are all on our own UNIQUE individual path!!!!!

Peace and good cheer to all. I am sorry Kelle for butting in when it is clearly none of my business.

kim