Re: i feel like i can't go on

Re: i feel like i can't go on ----- From: Lost Love - Date: 09 Nov 1997

Betty,

Remember what I mentioned to you in my analogy: hold on to the branch, don't let go... Also, at least you still have a family, your husband has been patient and forgiving. You have made your mistake, you are given a chance to atone, grab that chance, now is the time, correct your mistake by being there for your kids and your husband, by expressing your love to them, be close to them. In fact for the time being, it may be a good idea to be near them constantly, until you feel better. And please do it for all of us here too, we care about you!!!

Try another practical exercise I used to do whenever I encountered problems: whenever you feel bad or down, take a glass of water, look at it, imagine it is a magic potion to cure you of all ills, and drink it, and see how it feels. You'll be surprised what the brain can do to influence us. And repeat it as long or as much as you like. All it does to you is make you go to the bathroom a lot!! But no alcohol!! Our survival instinct are extremely powerful, and if we allow it to enter our brain, it can in turn influence our mood. Of course, don't forget your medecine, they are part of your getting better. And you're getting better, Betty.

As I said, at least you still have a family, while mine is slowing disintegrating! I don't even think there is any chance my wife would come back after a period of separation. She already said she has absolutely no romantic feelings for me, and this makes it extremely hard for her to be with me any longer. She also said that even without her interest in the other guy, nothing would change regarding her feelings (please see my posting "back to you Kelle" below, so I don't have to repeat). So comparatively speaking, you are in a better situation. I'm the one who should kill myself, yet I'm still here, struggling like a fish out of water, but hey, still gasping OK? Just throw me back in the water, I'll swim again! By the way, let me ask you a question, if I was the one trying to kill myself, would you be willing to help me, rescue me? A total stranger? If your answer is yes, which I'm sure it is, then you should be able to do the same for yourself.

Big huuuugs to you, your kids and family. Be well.