Re: Verbal Abuse - Thread Continuation

Re: Verbal Abuse - Thread Continuation ----- From: Damaged Shields - Date: 09 Nov 1997

Hi Everyone, remember me? I've been away for awhile. Trying to sort out my life. An update on my verbally abusive relationship: Technically, I'm no longer 'with' him. I moved out, gave him my apartment, all my stuff, even signed all of my deposit over to him. I moved back in with a good older woman friend of mine who's been trying to help me keep my head clear, and steer me in the right direction. I did everything I could possibly do to get out of that relationship, (I even gave up my coffee machine, my coffee grinder and MY TUPPERWARE!!!!) We've been in contact though. At the moment I am 3500 miles away, visiting my family and being with my teenage son. I've been here since September and plan on being here until the middle of January. Since I've been here, I've pretty much realized that I need to move back here for awhile, mainly for my son. He needs me more than ever. Being here, living with my mom and dad, I now realize why I moved 3500 miles away in the first place, and leaving my son in their care. IT'S CRAZY HERE!!!!!!! I'm trying not to feel guilty, but the reunion with my son has been positive so far. So now I have to figure out how to move my stuff back here from the west coast. My 'boyfriend' has been keeping in touch with me via e-mail, and I've recently told him about moving back to the East Coast. Well, naturally, with his mentality, he immediately took it personal. I told him how hard of a decision this is for me, since I have to say goodbye to some dear friends out west, and I have to basically start over, no job, no car, no money, no home of my own, having to live with parents, etc... and all he could say was, "How could you dump me like this?" etc... Finally, the next day, he called me and offered his support, but he's still 'suspicious', etc... It's not easy for me right now, with all I have to figure out. I'll have to fly back west to make arrangements on the moving part of this, and tie up loose ends, and say goodbye to my good friends out there. 'HE' still thinks that I'm going to marry him someday, and that we'll 'wait' for each other. And even though my main concern is my son, and my main reason for moving back east is to help my son through his teenage years, and highschool, I'm still finding it hard to be honest with my 'boyfriend' and tell him that if I weren't moving back east, I wouldn't want to be with him anymore. Even through the 'safety' of the internet and email, he still pushes my buttons and acts suspicious, etc... Anyway, that's the update. Everybody wish me luck with everything. I'll keep you all posted. :)