Moodswings - how to cope?

Moodswings - how to cope? ----- From: Diane - Date: 10 Nov 1997

In a nutshell, does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with the childish response as "the silent treatment" from one's spouse? For no apparent cause other than moodiness? I've dealt with this for almost 3 years AND I AM SICK OF IT! Up and down constantly. The cycle seems to be every 6-8 months. Things are wonderful, we are happy, intimate, playful, sharing, and then BAM! Within a couple of days all goes to hell. The dance begins. If I do contribute to these breakdowns, it is simply taking care of my own happiness, not exposing myself to the negativity, therefore withdrawing my affections/company from my husband. I have learned, at least, to not take it so personally. My attempts at conversations are met with defense. Granted, the moods go away, the relationship goes back to excitement and wonder (isn't it amazing how BORING games are?), but I am wondering, are these the natural hills and valleys of a healthy relationship? Or is this going to eventually break us down?

Any insights would be wonderfully received!

Regards - Diane