Thank you Lynda, Bernd, Trish, Noni, Josie ----- From: Diane - Date: 13 Nov 1997

Thanks all for the caring reponses!

And Lynda,for sharing some intimacies with me/us that very much rang truth in me.

One line Linda, that especially stood out was about silence. In my childhood, it meant mom and dad were at it again. Within an hour of the death-like silence, my mom would inevitably start crying - more like wailing like an child. I was always the one to comfort her - playing grown-up at 7 years old. I HATED THAT ROLE. I still feel VERY uncomfortable with solacing folks I love. I feel mean and unfeeling, but that was so much of my "role" in my childhood that I feel I "used up" my sympathy. I'm sure that has contributed to my and my husbands difficulties, this intolerance of pain & tears, my aggressive attitude (just get the hell over it would'ja?), my retreat when he is in pain.

I have much to learn Lynda and all, thanks so much for giving me some things to think about. What a gift.

kindest regards - Diane

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