long distance love

long distance love ----- From: Frustrated - Date: 01 Dec 1997

I met a wonderful gal on a summer vacation this year.We really hit it off right away and had 3 really nice days together.We exchanged info on each other before we parted.She lives in Colarado and i live in Wisconsin.She had made the first contact after i had returned home.She then informed me that she had a man that she was seeing and was supposed to marry.She said would it be ok if we would just be friends.I was shocked and said i understood and yes i would like to be friends.The reason she did not tell me about her boyfriend is that she REALLY liked me and wanted to get to know me.Nothing sexual happened between us other then a hug and a quick kiss before we parted.Her boyfriend is a truck driver and she does not see him much.She also claims she does not love him but likes him alot.She has recently been thru a divorce and i think latched onto this guy because she feared she and her 2 boys could not make it on their own financially.I see so much potential in this girl.She is really terrific but very confused.I have had so many good talks with her over the phone.I know she really likes me alot but always seems to fall back to the safety of her truck driving man.I have told her if she gives me a chance i would visit and get to know her better and vise versa.After 4 months she has still not ask me to visit but calls me all the time.We continue to have great conversations and she always tells me what a terific guy i am and how much she likes me.But yet tells me how obligated she feels toward her truck driving man because he is helping to pay the rent.I have alot of friends in the same area of Colarado that she lives and plan to visit them and her over christmas week.There is more to this story but,i think you get the general idea.This girl changed my life in three days.I think i'm in love.And i know she probably feels close to the same but is afraid to admit it.I'm not stupid.I know how obviously crazy this sounds but everytime i try to put in down and walk away from it my heart SCREAMS.I have played all sides of this with her in hopes that at some point in time she will have the courage to make a decision.I will be seeing her in three weeks when i visit my other friends in Colorado.I intend to play it cool and just have fun and get to know her better.She did agree to see me a few times while i am there.If i wasn't so hung up on this girl i probably would have laughed this off long ago.We are two pees in a pod in alot of ways.We really do think alot alike.I have told her a couple of times how i felt about her and that i would do whatever it took to be with her or at least take ot to the next step.She usually sounds very pleased to hear it but always brings up the obligation thing with her never around truck driving man.Please help!I just can't let go!!