Re: My marriage is crumbling into devastation

Re: My marriage is crumbling into devastation ----- From: Lost Love - Date: 02 Dec 1997

So glad to hear from you. I've been rather busy lately and didn't see any of your post recently, but had meant to write you one re: an earlier post. Oh well, I'm truly happy for you to have reached "the" level where we can feel liberated somewhat of the burden of our pain and hurt.

I too am now feeling much better, ever since I reached the conclusion that her life is totally up to her to amke whatever she wants (see my earlier posts). Oh yeah, my sorrow is still here deep in my heart, for all kinds of reasons, but I feel so much freer, especially since I also told her she can keep everything, except for some old mementos dear to me but w/ zero financial values, so I don't even have to burden myself w/ who keeps what. I'd then be able to truly start all over again, albeit from the bottom rung and climb back up, one rung at a time!!! As I said before, I fully expect she'll ever come back. My perpetual moto: "expect the worst, hope for the best" doesn't even work in this case, because I don't even hold any hope at all. It would be too disappointing if my hope is not even likely, remotely to happen... I'm just kinda numb, keep moving forward...

Hang in there. Once this is over, let's form a First Husbands' Club (actually I'm not too much into the men bonding kinda thing. Can't quite see a bunch of sweaty guys together, not a very pretty sight!...)

Good luck, and be well...