Re: Can fall out of love because of " I don't know"

Re: Can fall out of love because of " I don't know" ----- From: wolfie - Date: 02 Dec 1997

Hi faith,

Guess what? Our circumstances do NOT create our reality - WE create our circumstances and our reality! In other words, our thoughts create our experiences, not the other way around. In other words, saying it is because of your jobs, that is why you have not been able to move forward in your relationship is an excuse. If, moving together and growing together and evolving together was important to you, you would both find a way. It is called priorities! You cannot blame anything on circumstance - because WE create our circumstances!!!!

Are there any intimacy issues with either one of you in this relationship? Are you afraid to commit? Are you afraid of intimacy? Are you afraid of sex - sex issues? I am asking you these questions because sometimes we get to a certain point in the relationship and DEEEP down there is a fear to proceed - to deal with the fears, the issues, and so we move on! We create things in our lives and so we DON"T have to deal with whatever issues are there!!!!

My point. What do you want? Your passion CAN be brought back if it is what you want! You can move forward together if you want. However, it IS work. It is the commitment and intimacy that can usually scare people to move on so that they are in a perpetual state of "NEW BEGINNNINGS." I believe there comes a times when one no longer chooses to do that (run away from lasting commitment and intimacy and stay in space of new beginnings). There comes a time in which we move beyond "the beginning" and enter real and true and lasting intimacy, bonding, commitment, sharing, evolving........However, it is work and many people\ don't want to do the work and so they move on.

What you are describing (not feeling in love, no spark) sounds very "natural" to me in any partnership, marriage, etc. Very natural. But we move on and proceed forward and make a commitment to ourselves and each other in the evolvement of our souls - we enter deep love, true love and a lasting bond of intimacy, trust and respect. Our In Love feelings comes back eventually - our heart opens INCREDIBLY, our soul flies with our loved one........

Phew - don't know where that came from. The point of all of this is: What do YOU WANT? You may not believe me, but you are getting what you asked for. Maybe you are not ready to move forward in a relationship. That is something only YOU can decide !!!!

Lots of Love, kim