Re: Can fall out of love because of " I don't know" (wolfie)

Re: Can fall out of love because of " I don't know" (wolfie) ----- From: kim (wolfie) - Date: 02 Dec 1997

Hi faith,

Hearing your response, makes things more clear for me. Your partner sounds like a musician. I am not trying to generalize - just paint a picture based on my previous experiences. You know, the person who has this passion and that will always be their true passion - their true love - their number one priority. I would imagine that this could damper any relationship.

I understand what you are saying more clearly now. I think relationships with these types of people CAN work - for instance, read THe Unimaginable Life - by Julia and Kenny Loggins! WOW, what a book - in my opinion it is the greatest book ever written on relationships! But I would say that in their minds, their Love - their growth of self and love is their first priority, and all else (creativity, etc.) stems from that in a much greater way than it was before. In other words, their love adds to their unique gifts - makes it much greater and more beautiful than it was before. But both people have to want it.

I don't have the answers for you unfortunately. I do know, that prior to meeting my life partner, I was involved with a musician. It got to the point in which he stated that his music would always be his true love - I would always be second best. he wanted to "see what happens." I had grown enough in my own self love and could see my prior patters (being attracted to what I couldn't have, always feeling abandoned) that I made a conscious choice to let that relationship go. That isn't what I wanted. I ended up meeting my present partner who is as fully committed to this relationship as I am!!!! I feel as if I chose Love!!!

Anyway, I don't have the answers for you. It sounds as if you have your head on your shoulders and you are proceeding as you are supposed to!!!!

Oh, by the way, I didn't mean that we have control over everything. What I meant was that on some level (with our awareness or not) we co-create our reality. It is a non-victim mentality. But I won't get into that because it seems to piss people off. If anyone wants to understand WHAT I mean regarding all of that, Read (i know I know, you've heard it before) Conversattions with God by Neale Donald Walsch. Also, I am reading this AWESOME book right now called "and the truth shall set you free" by David Icke.

Anyway, best wishes Faith!!!!! kim