Re: Would your mate cheat?

Re: Would your mate cheat? ----- From: Diane - Date: 02 Dec 1997

Don't we all wonder? No, frankly I don't, I trust my intuition to guide me if something IS terribly wrong without the icky, sticky investigative work. If my husband had an affair on the net, with a human being, or even with a blow-up doll, the details do not matter, I trust myself to KNOW he was not being honest with me. It wouldn't really matter what the lie was, it was his need to lie to me and to himself that would be the most troubling.

Your husband got the shit scared out of him. No one can be "scared" away from an affair for very long. Being "caught" will not bring about lasting changes to a healthier marriage. Shame is a temporary emotion. It goes away when your brain decides you're not 3 years old again, and you can make your own decisions, even cruddy ones. What happens when the shame wears off? What is preventing the whole cycle from happening again? What happens if he gets even braver, and even sneakier?

Diane