REaction to post about cheating mate to Wolfie, Diane & Trish ----- From: Bugga - Date: 03 Dec 1997

I had a little cyberspace cat fight in a post below, as you saw. ((Trish)), thanks for caring; ((Diane)), thanks for sharing. ((Wolfie)), saw you on on AOL earlier this afternoon and was going to IM you; you must've read my mind!! Thanks for putting it in perspective in such a dignified way. I lost my composure because I'm so passionate about certain things, this, obviously one of them. Privacy and the right to privacy is important to me. My husband came over here and stood over my shoulder to see what I was doing just then. Although I don't take up a lot of space, I need to own it. Same applies to what I'm doing on MY time in the privacy of my own home. There isn't much in life that is truly MINE, so what I have, I take care of. Thoughts and ideas are EXTREMELY important possessions. I use that term because both of my kids used their thoughts and ideas to create things we're getting patents for.

'Leslie' chose to share about how she used the internet to spy on her husband. She said she was feeling insecure at the time. We have been handling our insecurities and cyberbabe problems in a healthy environment. Then this comes along.

It angered me because I work very hard at learning healthy things, and I know everyone here is working hard too. It's a struggle most of the time and there's a lot of emotional and situational fluctuations to deal with. I feel that some people here are vulnerable right now and truly depend on this forum for support. This is real life, not a book or a movie. I care about the progress of everyone. I really do. And I have come SO VERY FAR in just three weeks of being here. You all have played an extremely major role in MY recovery.

Now you know how I feel about privacy, and how much you've done to help. When I saw this post, I felt it was compromising the integrity of this forum. I really did. Not that I have a right to have a cat fight with everyone I disagree with, because I certainly have more questions than answers, it's just so maddening. Not only did she post, she put a link in for convenience sake! Gee, thanks. So, I am adamantly opposed to that; if I am working so hard to get feelings about myself, but more so the one's w/affair problems, on track, I feel a sisterly obligation to shout it out.

Love you guys!! Bugga

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