Re: long distance love

Re: long distance love ----- From: Bugga - Date: 03 Dec 1997

It just sounds like it started off wrong to begin with. 1. Why did you become attracted to her? 2. Why do you want a romantic relationship with her? Does it have anything to do with forbidden fruit?

You said you were shocked when she said she had a boyfriend and wanted to be just friends with you. It doesn't sound like that would be OK with you. You said that it would, but I didn't sense that from other things you said. I also detected a resentful or 'he doesn't deserve her' air to your note. You were misled to begin with. What makes you so sure you've got the whole truth now? A truck driver who is only home two weekends a month? He's supporting her and she RECENTLY divorced? There are details to every situation, but this sounds like no way to begin a relationship; not the kind you are hoping for.

To me, it isn't so much her situational problems that are alarming; it's how you chose to tell the story. Why would it do you any good to HELP her? She may be beautiful and sweet and I'm sure a very nice person to talk to, but WHY would you CHOOSE to take on problems and responsibilities to have THIS relationship? Does it stir up any feelings in you about YOUR need to rescue her? Would you need this relationship if there were no ex-husband, no financial problems and no trucker boyfriend and she was a totally self-sufficient, independent woman of the nineties? Please think about that. If you want to talk some more, just let me know.

Bugga