Re: REaction to post about cheating mate to Wolfie, Diane & T... ----- From: wolfie - Date: 03 Dec 1997

No Prob Bernd!!! :-)

Bugga,

This is how the mirror factor works. Was there ever a time in your life in which you felt so insecure, you did something you later regretted? Maybe you did something sneaky - maybe you felt insecure - maybe you didn't know any better and thought it was the right thing to do at the time?

If so, then what you do is Make peace with that person within you and by making peace within you, you are able to forgive Leslie and be at peace with where she is at.

that is what the mirror factor is all about. That is why I always say that if I am reacting to something, it is ABOUT ME! Someone is just allowing it to come up so it can be healed. Unfortunately, many people fall into the trap of the blame game and what that does is continue the cycle and it goes on and on. When we react, we look at what we are feeling and why. We ask ourselves - have I ever done anything similar to that....etc. When we make peace with OURSELVES, we are able to be a peace with others and the cycle stops right there.

That is why I always say that if we can love every single PIECE of ourselves, we can also love the world. The answer is forgiveness - forgiveness of self OR forgiveness of others because in actuality - you are me and I am you so it doesn't matter who I forgive first - me or them - it is all the same things. Forgiveness sets us free - sets us free to break the chain of cause and effect. We transcend it and move on.

Hope this makes sense. If not, chuck it :-) By the way, I think you are doing great and it sounds to me that you are taking responsibility for Your stuff!

Also, another way the mirror factor works. When we are hard on others, it is because we are VERY hard on ourselves. You see the gift that people bring us - it is like constantly looking in the mirror! I know that for me I can be VERY hard on people - and the truth is - I am very hard on ME. However, I am working on that. I am working on accepting ALL of me, regardless of my faults and foibles. When I am able to do that, I am able to be much more gentle with others.

I know you had questions about this Oneness thing. How we are all interconnected, all One. Look at it like a hologram. In other words, when you look into a hologram you see all of these beautiful things. When you take a piece out of the hologram, and you look at that piece, everything is still contained within that piece - everything that is contained within the whole, is contained within that piece. It is still made out of the same stuff - all that is in the One - the whole - is within that piece. I don't know if that makes sense. You can also compare it to water. When you take some water away from the ocean, all that is within the ocean - - all that the ocean is made out of - is still contained within that water. There is so much more than that little bit of water, YET all of that More is contained within that bit of water. In other words, we are all made out of the same stuff!

Enough of my jiberish for the day. hope I didn't put you to sleep. If I did, oh well, sleep well :-)!

Lots of love to you, kim

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