Re: Cyberspace Cat Fight ----- From: Bugga - Date: 03 Dec 1997

Well, isn't it interesting how much we find out about ourselves and what results from the way we show feelings. You're absolutely right about this. I attacked you with anger. We're all in a different place in our recovery process. Maybe this attack is a wake-up call for me. On the other hand, maybe your post is. I suppose if I chose to spy but found it was the wrong door, I could suffer the persecution for it in a number of ways. None of us are responsible for HOW a person chooses to find their way. What matters to me at the moment is what I can learn from this. I sat in judgement. I'm seeing where I was wrong. Anger is a very powerful emotion. Being in a place in my own recovery where I need to permit my feelings to run their course, doesn't mean I need to let them run my actions too.

Leslie, I know what it feels like need to be welcomed and allowed. A couple of weeks ago I needed to hear it; but it was the INITIAL thought that I had invaded someone's forum and lost my own manners and respect for others that I had trouble with the most. You have just as much a right to this as I do. I think this opened MY eyes to a couple of things. That's what sharing is all about.

I'm not angry now, but I still feel strongly about my opinion. But the opinion has lost its value. The value I can use is what YOU opened up with sharing. That's why it's OK to vent and hugg and be real on this forum. It's results-oriented.

Bugga

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