Re: REaction to post about cheating mate to Wolfie, Diane & T... ----- From: Bugga - Date: 03 Dec 1997

Fair enough for the sake of argument. But if Leslie realizes HOW she went about it was wrong, why would it be valuable to share the WRONG WAY WITH A LINK? Problem? Another one revealed. Instead of cozying up with hubby trying out new positions, I'd continue my 'investigation', but now into what drove me to using that method.

Where I am in recovery, I see more value in getting to the bottom of what drives me to doing these things. Two main reasons why: First, I realize what I did was wrong (and even if it's right I can use it as an AFFIRMATION (thanks wolfie) to build confidence in my ability to make the right decision) Second, which is another peeled-away layer at getting to the root, I need to find out WHY I made the choice to handle it that way.

I take my recovery very seriously and have made a commitment to it. I don't have all the answers and never will. But I'm not going to allow myself too much comfort and "arrogance" about it because I may end up not much better than when I started; if I do, I could find that.... I've reverted to wearing the old comfortable shoes, I've confused the heck out of my family, and I again turned away when a painful but true self-discovery was made.

That's what I see in all of what was written. Replys and all. I digested, recycled and found a value in everything shared here, whether I could use it or not. I'm allowing it to happen, but it may not have happened without the input and sharing from everyone else.

((( )))s Bugga

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