Re: REaction to post about cheating mate to Wolfie, Diane & T... ----- From: Bernd - Date: 03 Dec 1997

Kim, I think that's the key..."When you are becoming more AWARE about YOU, try to do it without judgement. In other words, when you become aware of something - do not label it as negative or positive or good or bad. Try to be aware without judgement, but instead with ACCEPTANCE...". To me, I get arrogant when I think I have the knowledge and understanding to judge another person's choices as bad, or good....or similar terms, ya know what I mean. When I react in anger to someone else's choices (unless they are directed specifically at me or someone who can't protect themselves), I usually find I'm sitting in judgement, without being aware of it. It screws up my serenity and recovery, and that's my motive for trying to be aware of when I do it. I've also found that there's a difference between forming my own opinion and conclusions about someone else's choices, and letting them KNOW my thoughts without invitation, and without reminding myself that they are simply my best guesses. The neat thing - and this is the thought that your post triggered - is that how I judge or don't judge others, is a pretty good reflection of how I treat myself. Lemme tell you, this feet work a lot better when they're not stuck in my butt!

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