Re: HOW DO I BATTLE THE WAITING GAME?

Re: HOW DO I BATTLE THE WAITING GAME? ----- From: SK - Date: 06 Dec 1997

Im w/ ISO - you should be letting her go to figure out what is best for her! I think you may want to set the boundaries out CLEAR w/ her in terms of the contact, conversation - what is YOUR and HER business -

If you are not living together and she has decided to move on - but is still indecisive - you do not have to torture yourself by engaging in her indecision. You can and will find it difficult to WAIT...but i think it may be easier if you both understood what the boundaries are! Maybe that would EVEN help here to be less confused - and able to make a decision! I know this shit takes time...it can't happen over night - and if you were meant to be together it is worth the wait - beleive me!

Next time you talk w/ her DONT ask what she wants - LOOK at what YOU want - and what you are able to handle! Tell her what you will accept and not accept...it wont be easy because you sound confused as well - but as she says TIME WILL TELL! It's best if you can make it on terms you can both agree to - this doesnt mean you should set a time limit...YOU will know - it will come to you! GOOD LUCK and all - SK