Re: I feel so betrayed... ----- From: me2 - Date: 07 Dec 1997

You're not going nuts. Yes, what he's doing is "fun" -- for him. No, it isn't healthy for your relationship. Not in my opinion, at least.

I found out two weeks ago that my significant other is doing the same thing. What really hurt was that this is exactly how she and I got together. I've saved all our email for three years. Some of it was pretty steamy. Now I find her doing it with someone else and telling me "it's nothing." I don't know how she can fail to see how this makes me feel.

You have my symapthy and empathy. Obviously you've both had a lot of other very difficult things to deal with recently. I suppose it's possible that your husband is just "dealing with it" in a very peculiar way. But that doesn't help patch the hole in your gut, does it? You've had to deal with the same things, some of them on a more personal level and your fidelity is intact.

I have gone through anger, heartache and the fear that I would lose this woman. If you're like me, the most difficult thing to deal with is the fact that he doesn't see anything wrong with what he's doing. She didn't either. Of course, that means she can't be trusted not to do it again -- if she thinks I won't find out. I don't know how to cope with it, either.

If you find an answer, please post it. I don't know how to put this back together without trust and I don't know how to learm to trust her again.

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