Re: Breaking up???

Re: Breaking up??? ----- From: wolfie - Date: 07 Dec 1997

I'm sorry Lost for your pain. Ouch - and I do feel for you and I'm sorry.

It sounds as if your family tries to "control" in some way because of Religions or whatever. Try, for right now, to take your family out of your mind. Who cares what they say (I know, easier said than done) However, YOU took a stand, regardless of what they thought, and followed your heart, YOUR inner voice. I say BRAVO to you!!!

The question you need to ask yourself now is what do you want to do? In other words, where do YOU want to live? It sounds as if your boyfriend has his mind made up and there isn't anything you can do to change it. But I know there is TONS of strength inside of you !!! So, try at this time, not to think about your boyfriend or your family. What would you like to see happen. In other words, where would YOU like to be and what would you like to do?

And then, once you have that decided, Go for it. Is there a church or something you can go to now for support - or a support group - and then I say you go for that. I think you need to develop your own friends - a type of support network that can help you find your strength again, grow, evolve.

I don't know. These are just thoughts that came to me. However, I know it is all easier said than done. So I would suggest asking your inner voice for strength and courage at this time and TRUST that you will be guided in the highest way for yourself!

And then, you also have a great bunch of people here who will share experiences, be there for you, help you find your way and be the friends you need. You are accepted here - feel free to just keep writing and writing and writing until you find your way!

Best wishes and love, kim