Re: comes and goes...

Re: comes and goes... ----- From: wolfie - Date: 08 Dec 1997

Hi there!!!

I agree with Bernd here. It sounds as if you are gaining a LOT of insight with who you are, have been - it sounds like you are becomming more aware - seeing what your intentions are all about! I think that's GREAT!!!! As of this moment, give yourself permission to feel "I don't know" IT IS OKAY!!!!!! It's all part of the process. I have gone thru that at times - I have given myself permission to say - I just don't know!

YOu see, I spent my LIFE people pleasing (because I wanted so much to be loved) - I was all things to all people. When I met my partner OLD patterns were being released! It was all so new for me! For the first time, I was REALLY getting down and out honest with me so I could be honest with others. Very hard for me - and I do it imperfectly - but boy I have come a hellova long way! I know this is the path I must go. And in my relationship we talk and talk and talk and talk...

Anyway, regarding the mirror factor. You hit it right on!! The things we can't stand about others are just the things we can't stand about us! It works the other way as well - the things I LOVE about others are the things I love about me! So, when you find yourself getting resentful about something try to find that part within yourself and forgive it - therefore you are free!

I am a big advocate in forgiveness!

Anyway, just some thoughts. Give yourself permission to feel "i don't know." Like Bernd said - Lisa is responsible for her feelings - you cannot go around trying to protect others - what you can do is be true to you, honor your feelings and express them. If we can't accept ourselves JUST THE WAY WE ARE, how can we accept others - honor others - respect others? So what I have come a LONG way in is accepting me - whatever it is!!!!! So if you feel I don't know than accept that! I have had to do that for me at times!!! It works - and it feels SO good when we are able to honor ourselves and accept ourselves!

Hang in there - it all will work out exactly how its supposed to! Trust in the process!!!!!

Hugs, kim