Re: Sexual Addiction

Re: Sexual Addiction ----- From: Bernd - Date: 09 Dec 1997

My guess is that the fear of embarrasment and harsh words actually FUEL the need to reassert your sexual self, through whatever sexual compulsiveness you feel you have. I'd suggest taking a look (when it feels right) at how you let YOUR values be dictated by other people's approval or disapproval. There have been many things that I felt shame over, which I eventually realized were ok and healthy (masturbation is one example). Now, when I fear embarrasment, or face others disapproval, it helps me a lot to stop for a moment and ask myself "what's really healthy for me, and do I have the problem, or is the problem really with THEIR repressed and twisted views of sexuality?". It helps give me a reality check.