He left me for an older woman; I feel i'm being punished ----- From: LA - Date: 17 Dec 1997

I'm 29, he's 47. Three years ago we both worked at the same hotel, he is general manager. He was married when I met him and I never thought twice about him except he was a nice guy, good-looking, charming, sweet, always talked well about his wife. After a year at the hotel, we talked more and he said his marriage was ending and he would like to go out with me. I told him I couldn't until he was separated. A few weeks later he told me they were separated and he came for a first date, and never left. We had a wonderful two years, full of ups and downs. He would take me out on his motorcycle and we would do road trips. He left me once in the first year to finish business with his ex-wife ( to see if there was anything left or something -- tie up loose ends) (which was actually his third ex-wife) I let him go stating I wanted to be 100% with someone. A month later he came back and we reunited. Two days ago he told me he was leaving me and moving in with Cecelia (47), my sales manager at the hotel. Cec and I were friends, He said he loves me but he wants to be with her. He said he could never give me the things I may want in the future -- marriage, kids-- He said it began between them two weeks ago and he had only kissed her. I am so hurt by all this. I lost my lover, friend, and my job. And I bought Xmas presents that I took such care in buying for him. This is the longest relationship I had ever been in. He said I was the last person he would ever love, that I was it for him. That we would be together forever. A month ago I sensed something was wrong. But I thought it was just one of those low times in a relationship that we would work through. We went through a lot together -- such as his brother's death. I cried all day yesterday, and talked on the phones with friends, trying to figure out what I was going to with my life, and all this love I still felt for him. I thought of how much it hurts to have the one you love tell you they love someone else -- and overhear them talking with the someone else and telling them they love them. He said WE the other day and wasn't talking about he and me -- he was talking about he and her. And I guess I just want to be reassured that this was suppose to happen this way, and I am not suppose to be with him. And I will be able to love someone else again and they won't go away and leave me alone. See, I am crying again. He was a really good friend to me. We had a good relationship. I hurt so much. Thanks for letting me get this out

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