Is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all

Is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all ----- From: NiceGuy - Date: 18 Dec 1997

I sometimes wounder, whether it is better to have never truelly and deeply loved someone......sure if you both live happily ever after its great....but what if you don't.....

What if you carry your expectations with you through every relationship.......none being good enough.....

I am really scared that this will happen to me.......

Do soul mates exist ? And if they do, can they be one sided ----- how can I think someone is the one soul mate for me, and they feel totally differently.

Is is just a dilusion ?

There have been some posts about things strenghtening you.....true, but is that good....

I will never let anyone get as close to me as my ex.....and I have become very bitter and cynical about relationships....is this good....I may be stronger.......but I think its tragic.......