Tis the Season.....

Tis the Season..... ----- From: Dean - Date: 18 Dec 1997

Hi guys! I wanted to wish each and every one of you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!! I haven't posted or responded in some time, but I read the forum regularly to keep me on my feet. Relationships are tough at times, but if we really look at life, we have so much to be thankful for despite the struggles. I do have one question to pose though. I sent my ex-SO and her two daughters a Christmas card two weeks ago. I got no response and no card in return....although I did recieve one from her parents, who I also sent one to. I have moved on, but it just floors me to think someone you spent 4 years with can just toss everything out.....and I was trying to be friends with her as she requested. I guess I look at the season a little different than some. I feel it is a time of reflection and a time to forgive and forget any wrongs of the year to focus on the spirit. I have a hard time understanding how someone can hold a grudge for sooo long! I wasn't the one who left and had an affair, but I got over it. Just seems that she should too. We haven't spoken since the week before halloween, and that is ok with me. I just feel that an acknowledgement would be appropriate either via a card or a call. Maybe you guys may think I am hung-up on her, but I really have moved forward. The therapy has helped open my eyes and I can't take the responsibility if she still has anger. I made huge effort at the time to work on things, but to no avail with her.....rejected, rejected, rejected. I had to draw the line somewhere, and I did. Anyway, I was just curious as to your thoughts.

Merry Christmas Everybody!!! {{{}}}!!

Dean