Re: Is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all

Re: Is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all ----- From: from Bruce, - Date: 18 Dec 1997

The answer to the guestion in the subject of your reply is,YES,ALWAYS and to be sure.Perhaps your expectations for love are to high.Maybe this was one of those magical experiences or relationships in life that was meant to TEACH.Heck,you know all lessons and experiences in life are not easy.We learn the most from the difficult ones.And i'll bet that until you understand how to be just and only a friend with this gal,things will not move forward.Think of it like this.You know the kind of friendship you have with your buddies or a woman that you consider to be just like a buddie?That is in my eyes the level you need to take it down to.I feel at that point you will start to see some things happen.She might start to relate to you and really talk about her feelings.Currently if i were her i would be uneasy because of your underlying feelings of need to love her as yours.Are you following me.Right now for her,There is just to much stress and preasure from you.She may not say it but i'll bet she feels it.If i have understood your situation with her correctly,i would say this qualifies and will = an understanding between the two of you or at least something that CAN work at that level.Some of us are truly tender souls when it comes to love.This is where we need to lighten up a little because not everyone feels love to be so dramatic so encompassing so suffocating.Not that this all applies to you but i hope it helps to ring some bells.Goodluck buddy! -Bruce-