Re: Tis the Season..... ----- From: David - Date: 18 Dec 1997

You're stealing a page from my playbook! I seem to get along OK through a lot of "big stuff," then hang up on some small detail. If I could put my line of thought into words, it might go something like this: "Hey, she chose me. She stayed with me. She's taking incredibly good care of me. I think I can adjust to her telling him he made her feel things that I didn't, implying that she preferred him over me, telling him a lot of things that I had spoken to her in confidence. I think I can adjust to the physical intimacy they had together. After all, that was a long time ago, and things are different now. -- Damn! How could she have had that two sentence, totally non-romantic conversation with him seven months ago without telling me!!!!!!!!"

This woman betrayed you, left you, etc. Now you are upset at her for not sending you a card????

Sorry if I sound harsh. I understand how it feels when some little slight needles you. It penetrates into a whole reservoir of pain somewhere. I hang up on little things all the time. Then when it finally passes, I wonder why.

If I'd found a way to stop doing that, I'd tell you what it is. But if you've read any of my posts from the last few weeks, you know that I have a big problem with this myself. If YOU figure out how to avoid it, please let me know. :-)

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