Re: Something to think about... ----- From: Bugga - Date: 20 Dec 1997

And that's a very good point you bring up about not knowing where or when or even how someone will walk away or die. That's one reason it is SO IMPORTANT to be able to feel good about all the decisions we make for ourselves.

Whatever your reasons were for not telling your father you loved him for so long, I bet you he's a happier man this evening.

Parents, like everyone else, make mistakes. Sometimes they don't live long enough to be able to own up to, realize, or make up for their mistakes. And when you have your own family one day, whether it's with a husband, children, or a convent; it doesn't matter; you may make the same mistakes too, if you don't take a look at the lesson to be learned in the mistakes of others; especially your parents.

If I could do one thing over again, it would be to never tell my son that I needed him. That put so much pressure on him. He's about your age too. He recently told an acquaintance of his that the way it's always been was I need him and he needs me. We were all we had in the world. And he was afraid of losing me.

Sometimes we push away the things we are afraid of losing without understanding why. Other times we pull it too close and smother it. And we don't all communicate in the same ways, so it makes sort of a guessing game out of some situations.

I read in an earlier post of yours about patience. Patience is a wonderful thing to have. But one thing I've always said to myself whenever I hear someone say; "Patience comes to those who wait"...I say, yes...but not to those who hesitate. And what I mean is, if you see an opportunity to do something YOU need to do, by all means, do it. If you are at a standstill in your life waiting on someone to make a move, you may as well get comfortable. Be as proactive as you can in your search for well-being. But remember to let your Higher Power/God lead the way.

My prayers are with you.

(((((Sol)))))

Love, "Bugga"

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