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Lawyers offices are filled with divorces that happen over many large and small misunderstandings. Anthony plunged a sword through himself, in the mistaken belief that Cleopatra wouldn't be part of his life.
How often do I find myself the object of my partner's misunderstanding, or leap to mistaken conclusions myself?
For example, I feel hurt by something my SO does, and believe I know why they did it. Typical reasons include: they don't love me as much as they say; they care more about themselves, than my feelings; they are thoughtless; and so on. I analyze what they do at times, and attach meanings they're totally unaware of.
Maybe I do this because I'm afraid to talk things out with them. I'm scared of having my feelings rejected, or belittled. Yet when I don't tell my SO how I feel, and ask them to talk with me, aren't I doing the same thing to myself - rejecting and belittling my feelings?
Just for Today
My feelings and thoughts are too
important to have them depend on guesses.
Today if my partner does something that
triggers uncomfortable feelings in me, I'll find out
their motives as best I can, by talking and listening
to them. I'll ask myself if I'd rather have my feelings
based on guesses, or on truth.
The more I take the time to understand
my partner's motives, the better I'll truly understand my
partner.
Practical observation commonly consists of collecting a few facts and loading them with guesses.
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