Most relationships have an abundance of "responsibilities" that either one partner or the other takes on, as well as ones they share. These include things such as taking out the garbage, cleaning, grocery shopping, and paying certain bills, etc.
There may be times when I feel my partner isnt taking enough care of their responsibilities. If I feel resentful as a result, I may talk with them and try to remind them of their "duty" to do their share. Or I may hold it in, and find myself suddenly snapping at them when they ask me to do something.
Maybe I settling for less than I deserve in finding solutions to such conflicts. Maybe were both being shortchanged in how we look at our "duties". When I think about the things I do well, I can usually find a feeling of play and personal enjoyment in those activities. It may be difficult to find such enjoyment in something as mundane as grocery shopping or paying bills, but isnt it worth trying? Maybe all it takes is turning grocery night into a scavenger hunt, where the winner gets a backrub, and the loser gets one too!
Duty makes us do things well, but love makes us do them beautifully - Phillips Brooks
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