"Love suffers long and is kind"
I can probably identify with the
kindness of love, but likely have a bit of an argument
with the "suffering" part. Why should the
willingness to suffer be a part of love?
Have I ever felt pain because of
something my SO said or did? It would seem it's an
unavoidable part of loving someone. Perhaps it's my willingness
to risk such pain that shows whether I'm acting with love
Maybe "to suffer long" means
that I don't try to dump my pain on my SO, even if it
comes from something they did. To not seek revenge, hold
a grudge, or try to respond back in kind can be very
difficult. Yet by taking my pain, and dealing with it in
a way that doesn't hurt my SO or others, my choice not
only makes me more loving, but brings me added serenity
and peace inside.
It doesn't mean I should be a doormat,
or accept unacceptable treatment. But as I find better
ways of handling pain, I may surprisingly find I suffer
less with time. My SO and others will no longer have the
same power over my feelings, and I won't keep playing a
part in continuing a battle of hurts.
Just for Today
Today I'll take some time to deal with
whatever pain I feel in ways that are better for me -
talking about my pain to my SO if and when they will
truly listen; talking and/or crying with a trusted
friend; pounding a pillow to get out my anger; writing my
feelings in a journal, etc.
We are healed of a suffering only by
experiencing it to the full.- Marcel Prous
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