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How much of my life is spent trying to please everybody but myself? I try to keep a clean house; I say "yes" when people ask me favors that I'd rather not do; I let out only "safe" feelings at times; I go along with what someone else says, even when I see things differently.
Chances are, I carry this behavior over to my relationship, trying to find ways to please my partner and sacrificing my own needs and wants. What happens though is that often I don't get what I want in return, and I end up feeling resentment, or complain to others and myself about being used.
My own needs are just as important as those of others. I can't control what other people's reactions to my choices will be; I can only control what choices I make. Other people may not be happy with them, but as long as I try to please them, I can almost guarantee I'll never be happy.
Just for Today
My happiness doesn't depend on how much
other people like my choices; it depends on how loving
and good my choices are for me.
Today I'll do my best not to hurt my SO
by my choices, and when I do actually hurt my partner,
I'll acknowledge it and make amends. Otherwise, whether
or not a choice pleases my SO or others is up to them;
letting them react in the way they want will be part of
my loving choices.
I cannot give the formula for success, but I can give you
the formula of failure - which is try to please
everybody. - Herbert B. Swope
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