How much of my life is spent trying to please everybody but myself? I try to keep a clean house; I say "yes" when people ask me favors that I'd rather not do; I let out only "safe" feelings at times; I go along with what someone else says, even when I see things differently.
Chances are, I carry this behavior over to my relationship, trying to find ways to please my partner and sacrificing my own needs and wants. What happens though is that often I don't get what I want in return, and I end up feeling resentment, or complain to others and myself about being used.
My own needs are just as important as those of others. I can't control what other people's reactions to my choices will be; I can only control what choices I make. Other people may not be happy with them, but as long as I try to please them, I can almost guarantee I'll never be happy.
Just for Today
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