If someone asked me to carry a 200 lb sack of potatoes for them, what would my first reaction likely be? I'd probably say no, because such a heavy load would be more than I was willing to lift. It would be much easier to say yes however, if the 200 lb. sack were split up into 10 lb. bags. It might take me a bit longer, but certainly it would be more than manageable.
How often do I try to tackle big problems in our relationship the same way? I look at the whole problem, and the weight of it seems overwhelming. Yet if I take the time to break it into smaller parts, I can see that it might take longer to find solutions, but at least it's within my power to handle.
Often I discover there are little things I can do to make small but noticeable changes. Something as simple as a short walk in the fresh air can have a wonderful effect on my perspective. Talking to my SO about one small aspect of the problem - and limiting my talk to that for now - can also produce surprising results. Before I know it, each small step I have taken has brought me further than the biggest leap I could ever make.
Just for Today
An avalanche can be started with a snowball.
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