The fable "The Wind and the Sun" provides a good example of how kindness can influence changes where all other efforts have failed. In the story, the wind boasts to the sun that he can force a coat off a man, and proceeds to blow as hard as he can to try and whip the coat off. But the harder the wind blows, the more the man clutches onto it.
Finally the wind gives up, and the sun comes out and shines over the man. After getting warmer and warmer, he finally takes off his coat and continues on his way.
Do I feel like the wind at times, trying to get my partner to change something but the harder I try, the more they seem to "clutch" onto their bad habit? Maybe if I let go of my need to have them change, and simply sought out the "sunshine" in my life, my improved attitude would bring a new warmth to my life and our relationship. In time I might find that they take care of their bad habit on their own, simply because it no longer serves them to keep it.
Just for Today
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